How well do you know your partner? A quiz with 60 questions
A ready to play couples quiz with 60 multiple choice questions in six rounds, a fair scoring system and a result table. Answer for yourself first, then guess your partner.
Couples researcher John Gottman calls it a love map: the part of your mind where you keep your partner's world, their worries, hopes, favorite things and history. According to the Gottman Institute, couples with detailed love maps are better prepared for stress and conflict. A quiz is a playful way to check how detailed yours is, and to update it.
How to play
- Each of you takes the quiz for yourself first. Write your answers down secretly, a notes app works fine.
- Then go through it again and guess your partner's answer for every question.
- Compare. Every correct guess is one point. For the 1 to 10 scale questions, a guess that is off by one still counts.
- Add up both of your points and divide by the number of guesses. That's your Know Score.
Answer honestly, not the way it sounds nice. Otherwise your partner is guessing a version of you that doesn't exist.
Round 1: How it all began
- What caught your eye first when you two met?The smile / The eyes / The voice or the laugh / The outfit
- How nervous were you on your first date?1 = Totally chill, 10 = Sweaty palms
- Before your first date, did you do some secret social media research?Yes / No
- What did you think the very first time you saw your partner?“Wow, who is that?” / “Seems nice, I guess” / “Not my type at all” / I barely noticed
- Which moment of your love story would make the best movie scene?The very first meeting / The first kiss / The first big fight / The first “I love you”
- Did you know right after the first date that you wanted a second one?Yes / No
- How awkward was your first kiss, honestly?1 = Movie perfect, 10 = Pure chaos
- What did you tell your friends after your first date?“I think this is it” / “Cute, let’s see” / “Too early to say” / I kept it to myself
- When did you first think “this could get serious”?On the first date / After a few weeks / After a few months / It crept up slowly
- What finally won you over?The humor / The kindness / That one look / Feeling safe together
Round 2: Everyday you
- What is the first thing you do when you wake up next to your partner?Grab my phone / Cuddle a bit / Sneak out for coffee / Keep sleeping as long as I can
- How grumpy are you in the morning, according to your partner?1 = Pure sunshine, 10 = Do not talk to me
- How many times do you hit snooze while your partner has to listen?Never / Once / Two or three times / We both lost count
- What makes a morning together perfect for you?Breakfast in bed / Sleeping in together / Slow coffee and a chat / Going out for brunch
- Which of your habits does your partner tease you about most?Always running late / Snacking all the time / Glued to my phone / Planning everything
- After a long day, what do you want first from your partner?A hug / Food / Some quiet first / To vent about my day
- Which snack would you never share, not even with your partner?Chips / Chocolate / Gummy bears / Cold leftover pizza
- How glued to your phone are you when you two hang out?1 = Could forget it, 10 = Part of my hand
- Do you send a good morning text when you wake up apart?Yes / No
- What does your perfect lazy Sunday together look like?Breakfast in bed / Cooking something together / Movie marathon under a blanket / Having friends over
Round 3: Love and feelings
- What makes you feel most loved by your partner?Sweet words / Time together / Cuddles / Little surprises
- What is your go-to way of showing your partner you love them?I say it out loud / I help out / Physical closeness / Small gifts
- Which compliment from your partner makes you melt the most?About my looks / About my humor / About my brains / About my kindness
- Which pet name do you secretly like best?Babe / Honey / Sweetheart / Just my name
- How much of a cuddler are you?1 = I need my space, 10 = Full koala mode
- What do you miss most when your partner is away?The cuddles / Our talks / Just having them close / Falling asleep together
- What do you need most from your partner on a bad day?A long, tight hug / Someone who just listens / Distraction and jokes / Some space
- What scares you most in a relationship?Growing apart / Losing trust / Routine taking over / Not being enough
- What is the best way to make up after a fight?Talk it all through / A long hug / Some space first / Laugh it off
- How important is it to you to actually hear “I love you” out loud?1 = Actions say enough, 10 = I need to hear it
Round 4: Money and work
- You get an unexpected bonus. What do you do with it first?Put it aside for us / Plan something special for us / Quietly treat myself / Pay something off
- On a date, how do you prefer to handle the bill?I love to treat / We split it / We take turns / Whoever suggested it pays
- What do you think is your partner's most expensive habit?Eating out and takeaway / Clothes or beauty / Tech or hobby gear / Travel and experiences
- Have you ever hidden a purchase so you two wouldn't have to talk about it?Yes / No
- How openly do you talk about money in your relationship?1 = Rather not, 10 = Completely open
- What do you admire most about the way your partner works?The passion / The discipline / Staying calm under pressure / Their way with people
- After a rough day at work, what do you need most from your partner?A long hug / Someone who just listens / Distraction and fun / A bit of space first
- What do you most wish your partner understood about your job?How hard it really is / Why it matters so much to me / What I actually do all day / How much I need to vent
- Would you take noticeably less money if it meant more time together?Yes / No
- If money didn't matter, what would you love to do all day as a couple?Build something of our own / Travel the world / Help people side by side / Absolutely nothing, together
Round 5: Home, family and friends
- Which chore would you happily take off your partner's hands?Doing the dishes / Laundry / Cleaning the bathroom / Cooking
- Honestly, how tidy are you compared to your partner?1 = Way messier, 10 = Way tidier
- What makes a place feel like home to you?Being there together / Candles and soft light / The smell of good food / Our photos and memories
- How nervous were you (or would you be) the first time you met your partner's family?1 = Totally relaxed, 10 = Shaking knees
- Whose approval of your partner mattered most to you?A parent / A sibling / A grandparent / My closest friends
- What would you warn your partner about before a big dinner with your family?Very personal questions / Way too much food / Heated political debates / Embarrassing childhood stories
- How did your closest friends react to your partner at first?Instantly smitten / Skeptical at first / "Finally, a good one!" / They're still deciding
- When things are rocky between you two, who do you turn to first?A close friend / My family / A sibling / Nobody, it stays between us
- What's your favorite way to hang out with friends as a couple?Cozy dinner at home / A night out in town / Game night / A trip together
- Which pet would make a shared home complete?A dog / A cat / Something small or exotic / No pets, thanks
Round 6: Dreams and the future
- Where do you picture the two of you living in 10 years?In a big city / In a small town / Out in the countryside / Somewhere abroad
- Which trip with your partner is at the top of your bucket list?Road trip across the USA / Backpacking Southeast Asia / Northern lights in Iceland / Safari in Tanzania
- What do you hope your relationship looks like in 10 years?Still madly in love / A calm, cozy team / Partners in every adventure / Our own little family nest
- Do you like to plan your future together or let it unfold?1 = Let it unfold, 10 = Detailed plan
- What's your biggest worry when you think about your future together?Money stress / Growing apart / Too little time for each other / Health issues
- Which adventure would you most want to try as a couple?Skydiving / Climbing a big mountain / Living in a camper van / A month off the grid
- Where would you love to spend one whole year together?On a tropical island / In a buzzing metropolis / In a cabin in the mountains / On the road, nonstop
- How do you picture your 75th birthday, with your partner by your side?Big party with everyone / Quiet dinner for two / A trip somewhere new / Family, cake and chaos
- Do you picture kids, or more kids, in your future together?Yes, definitely / Probably / Not sure yet / Probably not
- Do you have a dream for the two of you that you've never said out loud?Yes / No
What your result means
| Know Score | What it means |
|---|---|
| 90% or more | You have a very detailed love map. Talk about the few questions you missed anyway. |
| 75% to 89% | You know each other really well. The misses are worth a second look. |
| 60% to 74% | Solid. In Couples Quiz this is enough to unlock the next level. |
| Below 60% | Plenty to discover. That's normal early in a relationship or after big changes. |
A low score doesn't mean your relationship is in trouble. People change, and many questions are about things you have simply never talked about. The point is the conversation afterwards: "Wait, you really wanted a second date right away?"
Make it a game night
- Play one round per evening instead of all 60 questions at once.
- Take turns reading the questions out loud.
- Add three questions of your own to every round.
- After each round, talk about the biggest surprise.
Frequently asked questions
What questions are in a how well do you know your partner quiz?
Good quizzes ask about things that matter to your relationship: how you met, your everyday habits, what makes you feel loved, money, family and your dreams. Trivia like a favorite color is quickly guessed and says little.
How do you score a couples quiz?
Both of you answer for yourselves first, then guess each other. Every correct guess is a point. Divide the points by the number of guesses to get a percentage. For questions with a 1 to 10 scale, being off by one still counts.
Can we take the quiz in a long distance relationship?
Yes. Each of you answers in a notes app, then you guess on a call and compare. Couples Quiz does the same on two iPhones without a call.
What is a good score?
Anything above 60% is solid. A lower score is not a bad sign. It usually means you found topics you have never talked about.
Sources
- The Gottman Institute: The Sound Relationship House: Build Love Maps.
